playing mother AND father

Where do I begin?  How about the episode that went down yesterday between boy and woman! So a little background...my son's father doesn't work, well works long enough to quit and then collect unemployment, got his car repossessed, had two AMAZING girls and screwed it up, lives in his dad's basement, smokes weed daily, plays PS3 all day long and doesnt know how to cook, clean or do his laundry.  Oh and did I mention he's 30.  So needless to say I have been battling with trying to make my son the complete opposite of his father, and thought that I was doing a great job until this football episode happened yesterday.  To me, a great parent sees their child's strengths and runs with them. My son is extremely athletic and one of those kids who it just simply comes natural to.  And if you know me at all you know he didn't get one inkling of it from me.  Hell I can't even walk a straight line or do a juming jack sober.  So thank God for that.  Anyway my son last year, all 6 years and 49lbs of him, played tackle football and looked so damn cute while doing it.  I thought he enjoyed it but unfortunately he was a rookie and couldn't start.  So this year I assumed he wanted to play this year and be the little sta,r so I signed him up.  First week of practice we were on vacation, so he missed it.  Next week he went Monday and then Tuesday rolls around and he cries his little pathetic eyes out saying he hates it, its hard and I'm the worst Mommy for making him go...get over it kid.  Then Wednesday his father was supposed to take him bc I had to go get my birthday outfit obviously for AC that weekend and the little bitch didn't go, father said he didn't want to.  Thursday I made him go and said he wasn't going to turn into a quitter and a loser and that was that.  So come Monday, oh and yes AC was off the chain that weekend and I am STILL hung over in case you were wondering, this little fairy decides to throw a hissy fit again saying he hates football and wants to quit all together.  Stuck with a dilemma.  I allow him to quit and he becomes his failure of a father or make him play and he hates ME forever.  What to do, what to do?  My thing is that I do not want him to quit just because it is hard.  I want to teach him to stick things out so he becomes proud of himself for finishing.  It's more than a sport, it teaches him teamwork and respect and devotion.  Another thing I have to take into account is that when a woman is told she is having a little boy she immediatley bestows upon him every apprehension and affliction she has towards a man and decides on that very day to raise him a certain way so that to her he will be the perfect man.  I get that and I take that into account yet just as when a woman fights with a man and the man does not do or say EXACTLY what she wanted him to, we become even more infuriated. So what am I to do if he turns out to NOT be that perfect man I envisioned 8 years ago? Do I become disappointed and resent his father or myself? Or do I accept it?  That is exactly where I am right now! To be continued......

Book & Wine Club

We have decided to start a Book & Wine club! I know, we're getting old :) We both love to read and we both love to drink wine so we figured why not combine the two!  

Our idea behind the club is to read the book, comment (obviously) and pick a date to meet, talk about the book and bring a wine and/or food item related to the book. This is just a great way for us to keep in touch with our girlfriends and to do something different. We'll keep updates on here too in case any of you need some new reading material.

It was impossible to choose just one book for our first choice but we decided on Girls in White Dresses by Jennifer Close. The insert encompassed to us what we are going through as 20 some year olds and it seemed like a fun, easy to read book to start off the club. Have any of you read it? What were your thoughts?

With love and pearls,
Ashley