When To Be Quiet

Ok people I need some advice. I am a very outspoken person. If I have something on my mind I am going to say it. Now don't confuse me with those trashy Housewives who don't have a filter. I have perfected speaking my mind and saying it nicely - most of the time anyway. But there are times in life when you just need to give someone a bitchy reality check and tell them to get off their high horse. In this instance I don't know if I can. It's not a friend or my own family member who needs a reality check, it's someone else's family member who I am fairly close with. Some could even say we're going to be a family (if you catch my drift wink wink).

When does it get into "crossing the line" territory? This person has been so self involved ever since I've known them and it's really getting old. If you have good news, they have to top your news. If you have bad news, they have even worse news. If you're not talking about them, they either don't pay attention or make it so you have to talk about them. When am I allowed to say enough is enough? I am constantly fighting this war with myself because normally I would rip them a new one but now, I'm afraid it will cause an even bigger argument then what it's worth. I've tried making jokes about it and dropping extremely subtle hints but they are either so oblivious or so into themselves it's not working. One day I'm just going to explode and it is going to be a disaster.

I've tried talking to my "friend" about it but they are honestly no help. They just keep making excuses for them or giving them the benefit of the doubt or just changing the subject completely. I understand they are your family but come onnnnnn. If they're annoying me this much and I hardly ever see them, how can you not be stabbing your eyes out with forks! I feel like I'm stuck in a lose-lose situation and no matter what I do, it's never going to get better.

Has anyone else had to deal with something like this before? Did it get better or worse for you?

With love and pearls,
Ashley