The Fine Line Between Love and War

Sometimes relationships can just be so hard. One moment you feel like you're on Cloud 9 and the next, you feel like you are stuck in a black hole that you can't dig yourself out of. Sometimes you don't even know when it got so bad. All of a sudden, a fight about a family event turns into "I'm so bored, there's no spontaneity, this relationship is one-sided, there's no intimacy, I'm not appreciated". Where do you go from there? The person expressing those thoughts feels a bit better after they are said, but the person on the receiving end begins to think everything they do is wrong. That the basic existence of them is now a burden to the other.

How can one partner have so much ill-will towards the other? Why do these feelings develop? Can they come overnight? Can stress from your job affect your outlook on your relationship? Can that stress overpower the good things you have? How can one side have all of these things brewing while the other has no idea? Is it common to go from one feeling to the next? Does everyone in the world have these relationship problems or is it just me? Am I really that awful of a person where everything I do seems to be the wrong decision? Is it even possible to recover from this or is it the beginning of the end? Will one partner always be walking on eggshells afraid to upset the other? Will every fight from this point out continue to be this bad? Will things ever go back to happier times? How long does the entire relationship just feel like an act?

So many thoughts, emotions and results play around in your head. You don't know which ending your story will have. You hope for the best but should you prepare for the worst? One day you seem to be fine and coping. The next day you can't help but cry continuously. Is reality setting in or is it the fear of what will happen?

Clearly now I am in a dark place. I'm sure there are others out there as well going through something similar. Hopefully these thoughts will help us get through this tough time: